5 Steps to Designing Your Life

Screenshot_2017-03-09-18-35-38-1In the past few weeks I have been meeting and connecting with women who are resolved that they need to see some change in their lives. They are looking for new jobs or awaiting changes in their current job. Life is happening around them and they are waiting to see what happens. Every time I hear their stories the one thing that has been resonating and that I always ask them is have you figured out what you want?

I have spent many years letting life happen to me and to be honest some very good things have happened. However, from what I understand about life and spirit I have more of a say in life than I have actually been taking. I have creative power over my life. That is Biblical and spiritual. We all have the ability to be exterior and interior designers of our own lives. The problem is many of us forget or do not realize the extent of this power.

This is what that looks like everyone of us is created by God. Our creator God has given us His image. That does not mean that we have his eyes or his broad shoulders. We cannot look back at family photos and see the Him in the human form but what we do have is the spiritual DNA that he has given us. We have the ability to think and speak things into existence. The problem is that many of us speak and think in opposition. For instance, we will think about and meditate abundance and prosperity but then when discussing life with friends talk about how broke we are. Or we may talk about the life we want with friends and family but not have the belief that we can really have that. We simply believe in our current reality.

So here is my advice:

1.”Write the vision”. That should sound familiar to some of you. Write down what you want to see happen in the next phase of your life. Write down what you would like to day everyday from the time you wake up until the time you go to bed. Write down what your ideal workday looks like and what you would like to do at a job.

2. Create a visual representation of what you have written. Some people create vision boards others use scrapbooks. In this day and age you can even use Pintrest (My FAV site). Creating the visual representation allows you to have a physical representation of your dreams when your imagination gets stifled. It helps you get excited for what you envision. It helps to invoke the feelings that are associated with your vision.

3. Meditate on the Vision. Daily meditate on what you want to see happen in your life. Even it is just a few minutes a day see it in your mind’s eye.

4. Speak the vision. Look into the mirror daily and speak directly to yourself about your visions. Look yourself in the eyes and speak positive affirmations to yourself. Remind yourself that you are the creation of God and that you possess the DNA of your creator. Then begin to speak your vision into the world around you. Remember God said “Let there be light”, and it was so. YOU have that same power. Use it.

5. ACT on the Vision. This is the most important step. If you have done ALL of the previous steps then this one should come naturally. You should be able to easily see the actions that are necessary to create your vision because you know what your vision is and you know that it is possible. Search for the job that you envisioned it is out there. Start the business that you wrote about you have the details of what you are going to do. Everything that you desire is actually possible to achieve and have.

Stop waiting for life to happen to you and begin to create the life you want.



Get Your Head IN The Clouds

Have you ever had someone count you out based on their interpretation of you? We all daydream sometimes and every so often we have big dreams. You see yourself living in a mansion or having a fabulous car. Maybe you envision yourself traveling to exotic places, or being a hugely successful business person,  or sharing your talent on the world’s stage. When you dream about what you want for your life your heart becomes excited you feel invigorated and you are so inspired to have your what you dream of that you begin to share with those dreams with others. Unfortunately, sometimes when we openly share them with others they immediately bring us back to reality.

Why is it that when you dream for yourself, others who don’t see it take their hand and wipe away the daydream clouds that may have been brightening your spirit? Why is it that many people that we associate with automatically bring us to the negative instead of opening their hearts and seeing our dreams for themselves? It is because many have lost their own ability to dream. Dreaming and imagination is key to living a purposeful life, but many have been caught and trapped into the vicious cycle of a reality mindset.

Maybe you have also crushed someone else’s dream. When you heard a friend talk about the big house they wanted to buy did you say “that sounds great, I can’t wait to visit” or, did you respond sarcastically with “let me know how that goes for you”? We all want to believe in others dreams somewhere inside but the reality of life often clouds our vision and keeps us from hoping for anything outside of what we can see.

I would venture a guess that you have even gotten into the habit of killing your own dreams, because you are so focused on your reality. STOP IT! I  say, today, get your head IN the clouds! Stop focusing on what your situation is and see your situation the way you want it to be. Make vision boards and change your screen savers. Think about your dreams daily and write them down in a journal.  Set your intentions in your mind and heart. When someone tries to bring you back to reality look at all the tangible things you have created bring you back to your dreams. Once your head is in the clouds maybe you can bring someone else up to higher heights with you or at least not rain on their parade when they express their desire for something better.

Dreaming is your heart’s way of setting goals. Your heart has certain desires and things that it knows you can have and accomplish. If you choose not to dream or to suppress your dreams you will constantly feel unfulfilled. Use your dreams to help you craft your life. When you allow yourself to have them and regularly focus on them your entire being has the opportunity to connect with them. You will begin to actively work towards them and ultimately achieve what you see.


Get Back Up Again

Let me introduce myself. My name is Gabrielle and I am a 41 year old mother of two. In my life I have worked at several corporations and government agencies. I have been in business for myself with a few different network marketing companies and I have tried a host of other entrepreneurial ventures. I have had many success and failures as well. And with all that I have just stated you would think that I could be some sort of Guru in something, right!

Well I am not. You see, in all that I was doing before I was not focused on a dream. I was not focused on a purpose. I was focused on being the best at what I was doing (my work), or making more money (business ventures). So my success were short lived. They would be great for a time but not sustainable because they did not connect me to the divine purpose and calling for my life.

Several years ago, I had a dream. I was preparing for a trip and I had to catch an international flight. I had no idea where I was going in the dream but I knew it was a long flight and I had to get to the airport to go. I was in my home trying to pack but I couldn’t figure out what I needed for the trip. I was in a panic trying to get there. I got into my ride and drove to the airport but needed to go home and get something else. The dream kept going on and on with me trying to get and bring more things and not knowing what to bring. The whole time in the dream and internal voice kept saying, “don’t worry, you’ll get it when you get there.” I could see the other passengers on the plane. They were waiting for me. They could not go on their trip unless I was there.

I woke up realizing that I had a calling and that I was responsible for the journeys of other people. There are people waiting on me to live my purpose. So now your asking, “Gabrielle, did you make changes and live on purpose?” No, no I didn’t. I did more of the same. Then on top of doing more of the same my life started falling apart. My relationships changed; I lost things; and I couldn’t figure out how to sustain my life anymore. I started to suffer from anxiety and depression unlike anything I’d ever experienced before.

Thankfully, I had a family structure that could support me. I had somewhere to go and people to speak life into me. Slowly I began to pick up the pieces of my life. I moved to my home city, got a new job and went right back into living my life the way I was before. Being great at what I do but not following my purpose.

Well recently I became ill and although I wanted to keep living my regular everyday life my body would not allow me to function normally. So I had to be home and in bed just relax. However, in that space and time I had was able to read some books that I wanted to read and listen to some podcasts and become inspired about life again. Well as I said in my introduction I am a 41 year old mother of two and some fear and doubt can set in because well at this age can I really get back up again and change my experience of life. Short answer – YES!

I am chronicling my experiences of getting back up and starting over in this blog and in various social media sites. I am dreaming again and I am connecting with my purpose because there are others who need to know that they too have not finished living and that the don’t need to settle for where they are now. I am finally getting on my plane and although I don’t have everything planned and prepared I will get it while I am on my journey.

We can all get back up again and live the life of our dreams no matter when you begin again. Here’s the thing that you absolutely must remember though when your getting back up, determine your purpose. Your purpose is what is going to make your life that much more successful and carry you closer to your dreams. There are people waiting on your plane too. They need you to get on so that everyone can take off. So no matter what you have experienced dust yourself off and get back up again.

Ready isn’t Real

This past week I have relaunched my blog, FB page, and Avon business. I was encouraged by my mentor to host an online grand opening party. She told me just to invite everyone and she would do some posting for the party. I tried to put it off. I am just getting over a case of pneumonia, my son has a cold and I was very nervous about how to reconnect with people. I kept telling myself that I wasn’t ready. However, she made it seem so easy so I went along with it. Before the end of the evening I had not only contacted people that I hadn’t connected with in years but I also recorded my first FB live video. Thanks to my daughter and my friends that video had over 400 views and I have momentum and inspiration that I did not have before.

If I had continued to push things off, I might still be sitting here tonight no closer to my dreams and goals than I was 5 years ago. Listen, don’t wait for “ready”. Don’t worry about lining up the ducks. Get going now, today, this minute. If you have a dream or passion that has been in your heart, go for it. Being ready is only an excuse to keep you stagnant. You will learn your lessons as you live. So just get up and GO GO GO!


Adam and Eve – The Story of Exposure

I was mulling over the creation story recently and some things came to mind about Adam and Eve in the Garden. There are still many questions I have about why the tree was in the Garden in the first place and why God desired to keep us from the tree of life but one thing did seem to stick out for me and that was the idea of exposure in the presence of God.

In the story of Adam and Eve, the two were able to walk and talk with God on a regular basis. They shared everything with Him because they saw no need to hide from Him. There was full and honest communication among all involve. However, when the serpent convinced Eve to eat from the tree and she also convinced her husband. They hid from God.

Now many people often come to the conclusion that it was because they didn’t want to God to see their genitals. They were nude and they didn’t want God to see it. But consider this for a minute, if God was omnipresent how could he not see them. I have come to the conclusion it was not nudity that made them nervous. Even in this day and age nudity is cherished. People get nude in colonies, on beaches, for art, for television, and of course for each other. God never spoke against nudity and Adam and Eve did not mention nudity in the Bible.

They were naked. Being naked and being nude although related are two different things. Nudity simply implies that the body is not clothed. Being naked means that you are fully exposed it has a deeper meaning than just showing off the human form. Adam and Eve had done something displeasing to God and could not hide from it. The desired a privacy from the open communication they had with God. This desire for privacy from God it what has transcended the generations of this world. We wish to not be fully exposed to our creator as if hiding our true selves and desires from him would benefit our lives in some way.

In the Bible as societies grew only priests were allowed to have full exposure to God. They had to go behind a veil to get into his presence. The generations of the world got exactly what they desired, privacy from God. They ability to not be fully present or exposed with the Creator. What many of us do not understand is that full exposure leads to complete connection and abundant blessing. Adam and Eve had no cares in the Garden of Eden but because of their new desire to be hide from God they lost that privilege.

Jesus came to give us back that privilege. When he died on the cross the veil that guarded God’s presence was torn. However, instead of being in a place where God walks and talks with us all regularly and openly we must seek Him. We must initiate communication and open the door for full exposure. He should be able to see your most intimate of hopes, desires, and even fears and lusts. Those who want to walk in the fullness of God must be prepared to be naked before him. We must be the ones willing to strip down because in reality God knows all and sees all, so the only thing you are doing is opening yourself up to what He has to offer. We could never and can never hide from God. In reality it wasn’t even possible for Adam and Eve. God just allowed them to have a covering for their own piece of mind.

True relationships require exposure. That openness solidifies the bonds between individuals by allowing them to connect on very deep levels. That is what God desires for us, a willingness to expose ourselves in order to bond deeply with Him and in turn enjoy the blessings that come with a true connection with God.

I cannot tell you how to expose yourself to Him. I am still learning that for myself but I hope that this story will help you to begin the process for yourself.

There is always beauty in where you are

I have been unemployed for almost a year now and out of the office environment since May 2012. For most of that time I was stressed about what I was going to do and how I would support my family. I forgot to pay attention to and enjoy what God had offered me. Time to be with my family and time to start my life anew. Time to enjoy my days and be relaxed in the evening not worrying about the office work that I needed to do the next day. 

Although I did have my good moments while being home, it hasn’t been until now that I can truly appreciate where I am in my life. I can appreciate being able to be home with my son and having time to help my daughter with college applications. I love not being so exhausted that I cannot prepare a meal for my family. Where I am, although there are still some struggles that I am experiencing, is good. The Bible says we should be thankful in all things. Now I can say that despite the troubles ahead I really am.

I choose today not to focus on the problems but to focus on the faith that will help me to move mountains and to appreciate the change that God is bringing me to. Even though it is a little painful I can handle it and will move forward with peace in my heart.  

Keep Trying

Yea as you can see. I did not complete my book. But I have only failed if I quit trying right? So I will not give up. I will be publishing a book. Now I have to pick the idea I like best.